Our suffering is caused by our desire to cling onto something. If we fall to release the grip, it will eventually suffocate us or we may harm another. Our anxiety stems from unresolved threats that seek to sabotage us. We don’t want to let go of anything for fear it may never come back. However, nothing is permanent, let alone relationships. We must stop defining ourselves by the company we keep for our concept of happiness or longevity.
We have become defensive due to the seeds of doubts taking hold in the soil of our psyche. We see the plants have taken root and now bearing fruits of uncertainty. What once may have thrilled us now has become boring and rote. This familiarity unsettles us and drives us to chase new experiences despite any costs. Desire occurs before anxiety, but uncontrolled desire will fluctuate suddenly without any type of approval or consent. Notice if you feel the urge to control a person or situation. Can you sense how misery is creeping in as you sense a shift in perspective or demands? This is because your foundation has eroded in a state of bitterness, resentment, shame or regret.
When you enable another person to distort your existence by their desire, so too will disappointment amplify your illusions. You may begin to place more credence on what others say while demeaning your inclinations thus creating a state of self-induced suffering. This suffering arises because of the urge to escape the situation by clinging to or possessing a person or object. We worry this person may leave or think less of us. Don’t let this burden take root within yourself. No one is responsible for our happiness, but ourselves.
We must walk through life on our terms. We choose with whom to surround ourselves, but our actions are ours alone! We can only live for us and no one else. Nor can we assume anyone else’s journey or intentions. We have the Divine gift of freedom and freewill. We don’t need anyone but ourselves to validate our existence.
Happiness is transient, but created by our own lived experiences. Much like the many phases of the moon, so too do our emotions and mood color our perspective. Its ok to be on an emotional rollercoaster at times, but this has no implications from anyone else, but our innermost thoughts and feelings. We create our reality. Sure, we desire to be loved and appreciated, but we first must love and validate ourselves. Our deepest desire to crave noting. Only this moment can fully sustain us without any distortion. We yearn not so much to be loved as to love fully, unconditionally, and unwavering for all things in all ways to everyone. Our love is not discriminatory to fit a particular type of person or situation.
Humans are intrinsically happy until we are conditioned to believe that we are not satisfied. Then our egos take over and a sense of competition arises, “Who can become the happiest within the quickest period of time?” This pattern has become engrained in us for generations through a blend of environmental, biological, cultural, and societal transmissions. How can we best align our lives to fit our goals if we are constantly listening to the chatter from others?
From where do our perceptions of happiness and wants arise? Why must be color ourselves by crayon of expectations from others? We are not what and who we think we are! Clinging to outdating thinking of self ensure we crave unrealistic expectations and waste both vital life energy and time. Instead, we must see ourselves as a constantly evolving being of Divine love and goodness.
Sexuality is a sacred and sensual act that work to pierce into the unknown. Reality holds an unwavering sanctified mirror of ourselves in totality. We only need to rely on ourselves and don’t need external aid. When we share our spiritual and sensual essence with another it is done purely and without expectations.
Sexual chemistry may be a base rung on the ladder of attraction. Yet, sexual attraction can quickly alter into sexual bondage subconsciously. Sexual bondage is a mean to escape the union from and to yourself. We must see it more as a primal force of our carnal form. As humans, we must allow ourselves to enjoy sex without anxiety, but work to prevent being consumed by its concept. Should we choose to remain ambivalent to impeding the soul’s desire for communing with another’s presence and physical body we are actually amplifying our feels of being isolated and thus fearful of perceived clinginess or codependency.