Love is something that isn’t easy, but it is what almost everyone wants. You may find love when you don’t even expect it, or chances are that you may never find real love. This happens to so many people, but they do have love with their family and friends.
Maybe you wonder why you haven’t been able to find real love. You wonder why you can’t have what other people have. Sometimes this happens because we block out our desires and we cannot move past what happened before.
What is Real Love?
Real love is when you are able to connect with a person both physically and emotionally. It is someone that loves you and wants to know all about you and loves your faults.
Being single and being with someone both takes a lot of work. If you are looking for love, you need to know these things:
- Relationships are hard work.
- You cannot change someone.
- Someone cannot be fixed by you.
- It is worse to be in a bad relationship than to be single.
- Being single doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
- Being single can help you to grow.
Signs You Will Never Find Real Love
One of the biggest signs that you will not find real love is that you are trying to make someone be who you want them to be.
This can never happen, and it causes things to be harder for you. Love is not real when you have to force someone to be with you or force them to change. You will be let down every time you do this.
Rushing Things
You need to make sure that you aren’t rushing yourself into love if you aren’t ready for it. Do not be pressured to be with someone and you are fine being single.
Rushing yourself is not romance and you need to make sure you have the feelings and that you let love come on its own time.
Your Own Needs
There is nothing wrong with meeting your needs and giving yourself what you want and need in life. But if you find that you are only caring about your needs, you aren’t ready for love.
Men and women want different things when they get together, and men like to be heroes. They want to be with someone that will respect them and be with them and they want someone that they can love and protect.
Men want to be a hero every day, and they will want to feel like they are needed. If your needs are all met, how will someone come and meet your needs for you?
Love Isn’t Number 1
If you aren’t ready for love, then you won’t make it a priority. This means that you are not past your breakup from before or that you aren’t ready. You might have your own ideas right now.
No Room for Romance
If you don’t have time to have romance, you won’t get it. People get so busy with their work and their families that they forget to pursue love.
You Hide
Maybe you hide from love or you are someone that doesn’t like to leave the house. You will have a hard time finding love in your bedroom.
Maybe you aren’t going out any and you are staying home. If this is happening, you will not meet someone or find true love.
Looking for Something Hidden
One of the hardest things about love is that we have expectations that we want in someone. We don’t take a little and give a little, but we want just what we want.
You will never find true love if you are looking for exactly what you want without giving in a little. You need to find someone you are attracted to and find someone with the same values and interests and go from there.
Perfect People
You think that you will find someone that is perfect, but you forget that there are no perfect people. You can guarantee that you will be with someone that has bad habits, disagreements and maybe even worse.
Do not let the idea of perfection hold you back form finding love. You need to find men you are attracted to and then move forward.
You are Behind
Some people do not do online dating apps, and this can make them behind in the dating scene. Some people want to just run into someone they like, and this doesn’t always happen.
You will need to get up to date with technology and understand that you might have to meet that special someone online.
Intimidating
Maybe you are intimidating because you are smart and good looking. This can make it hard for someone to find you and to be around you.
Your body language might make people feel that you are not on the market.
Rare Matches
Some people have a hard time accepting that finding the perfect match is hard or even impossible. You need to let love takes over and not have such high expectations.
Trying Too Hard
You might date too many people and you aren’t giving yourself enough time to get to know one person. You need to slow down and not exhaust yourself in dating.
Date different people but find out if you are compatible with them before you keep moving on. Stop love bombing which is going with all these short-term relationships. This will stop a real connection from happening.
Olympian Standards
You might want to have standards that are so high that you cannot meet someone. You cannot expect to meet a Greek god or goddess. You need to not have such high expectations and let people show you who they are.
Like someone’s eyes or hair and be amazed with the things that are inside more.
All or Nothing
Maybe you are someone that wants all of the things that you want, or you just would rather be single. If this happens, you might not find someone because you will not get everything you want when you want it.
There should be things that you choose to not give up on such as your values and morals, but other things can work out.
Love Shy
If you have had broken relationships or grew up in a broken home, you might be afraid of love. This means that you are afraid that things will go badly before you give them a chance.
Maybe you don’t want to risk getting into relationships that will end and you don’t want to open yourself up to hurt.
Relationships can go badly, and you will never know what is going to happen until you give it a try.
Trauma from the Past
People that have had past trauma often have a hard time moving forward. They have a hard time falling in love because they haven’t gotten past the things that happened to them.
If someone is emotionally or physically abused, they might not be able to open up to love until they handle things from their past relationships.
Alone
Some people will choose to be alone over settling for what they don’t want. You should never settle but if you haven’t found love, keep trying. Go out and find out what you are attracted to and work towards it.
P Word
Some people are stuck in the idea of propinquity. This means that you will want to interact with people but when you make new connections, you think that they are someone that you want them to be when they might disappoint you.
Find people where you like to go such as the gym or the coffee shop. Keep your options open.
Past Mistakes
Some people have made mistakes over and over again and this scares them out of love. If you keep falling into the same relationship patterns, you might be afraid to keep trying to meet someone.
Get past your mistakes and do not let them hold you back from love.
Easy Going
It is hard for some people to get along with others. Some people fake their emotions and fake love. If you find that you have a hard time being with people or you are codependent on people fast, this can be a problem.
Stop being clingy and learn to have a normal relationship Being clingy brings about strong actions and it can make you feel obsessed.
Friendships
Those that have strong friendships might scare off potential partners. If you have people that you are always hanging out with, you might not be able to meet the person that you can love.
It would look strange if you were always with the same girl and if you weren’t dating her, even weirder.
Passive
People become passive when they don’t find love right away. They think that this is okay, and they expect to find love when the time is right.
Focus on being the best that you can be and learn to let the world guide you. Love may or may not come to you but if you are too passive, you can count it out.
Spontaneous
Maybe you are too spontaneous, and you aren’t going for what you want. You just hope that it will fall in your lap or that it will happen. Maybe you aren’t looking for love and you feel that if love is coming, you will find it.
You want to give and get love and if you are backwards, chances are finding love will be harder. You have to learn what other people want and need and then go for it.
Giving Up on Love
Some people have given up on love. They have been hurt or disappointed, so they just give up on it. If this, is you, you will have a hard time finding love?
You are worthy to be loved and you are needing to open up your heart and mind to this.
What to Do?
If you feel that you are not going to find love, you need to change the way that you approach it and find that you are worthy of love.
Here are some things that you can do to find love:
Hero Instinct
Understand that this is something guys want, and they want to give you. Let a guy be a hero if you are interested in him.
Be Your Best
Be the best that you can be and that is what you give others. Keep your body healthy and do the best to keep your mind, soul, and body strong.
Get Involved
Go out and meet new people and do new things. Take a class or go to the gym. You can’t meet people at home.
Trauma Help
Figure out how to get help to heal from your past trauma. Deal with anger or hurt that you have and see the positive side to what is happening in your life.
Let Magic Happen
Allow yourself to meet new people and see if there is a spark. Find what you are looking for but don’t be too picky. Don’t judge someone until you get to know them.
If nothing else, you can meet a new friend.
Say Yes
Learn to say yes to love and to do things that are new. Go out with people and have fun in your life. You might have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Up Your P
Find things that you like to do and go do it. Find people that have the same interests as you have and increase your propinquity with others.
Attract people that you like and find things that others would want to do with you. Make yourself known so that people can meet you.
Flow
Find ways that you can boost your productivity and find love. Go out and be attractive. Be happy and let people come to you.
Live your life to flow better and be authentic.
Keep Hope
Stay hopeful that you will meet someone and that you will find love. Don’t give up just because you haven’t met the perfect person yet. Keep going on your journey and be the best that you can be.
Channel Your Inner Strength
Find peace and do what you can to change yourself and the world. Do things to find love and appreciate those around you.
Give out your energy and time for others and love people with real love.
Patience
Learn to have real patience and to wait for what you want. Keep knowing that you can find love and that love will come to you.
Patience doesn’t mean you are giving up; it means that you will meet someone when the time is right.
Be Mysterious
Let love be a mysterious thing to you. Let things about love come true to you and learn to notice the good thing about yourself.
Be trusting of others and find out who they are.
Don’t Settle
Make sure that you are finding people you want to be with and don’t settle in your life. Find people that are good and that will give you happiness that you are looking for.
You would be better off alone than to settle but don’t do either. Find true love and choose relationships because you want to be in them and not because you are afraid of being alone.
Networking
Find people that know people and hook up with them. Go out with different people and be positive. Find people that fit with you and what you like.
Forgive
Forgive yourself and others for hurting you. If you have things that are holding you back, open up your heart and your life to forgive them. Embrace forgiveness and see that you can get over betrayal and hurt.
Thing About Love
The more that you chase after love, the more it seems to go away. But you cannot just wait for someone to find you. Go out and find out how to be the best that you can be, work on yourself and let love find you.
Think of love and how important it can be in your life. Love can change who you are and your future. Never give up and think you are unworthy of love, you are.