Ways of giving him that “meant to be” feeling

It is not easy to know whether what you are feeling for a man is real or just crazy lust especially if you have brushed shoulders with yourself over a man, feeling bad about him one minute, and feeling all the positive vibes the next moment. Well, even men experience this too.

A man has two parts. One part of him may feel drawn and attracted to you while the other part that decides whether or not you are the one is likely to have its doubts.

When you start experiencing this a guy will probably begin showing his true colors.

One day he tells he’s not sure if he wants to date, the next moment he texts you and tells you how much he misses you and wants to see you again.

Now surely, what’s a woman supposed to do? Is there any woman who always wonder whether these men are flakes sometimes?

Paying attention to your instincts

Maybe you are dating someone and an inner voice keeps telling you he’s not the one even though you feel good about him in so many ways.

If that’s the case listen to it. If you pay attention to its amazing. Contemplate about it. How many times have you ignored that voice that warned you and goes ahead with something which later turned out to be a disaster?

Having a heart to heart with you

That voice is your intuition or rather let’s call it your “fourth brain.” And it’s the largest part lets appreciate your heart intelligence. When your intuition is speaking never ignore it.

It is the only thing that will tell you the truth. Especially when you meet a man, it will tell you if he’s the right man for you.

You will know this because you will feel different unlike when you were with other men.

You’ll calm down once the fourth brain senses that you are with your person. You will also feel peaceful, safe and be relaxed when around him.

When you spend all your time trying to figure a man out, then you are definitely with the wrong man.

Linking up with your inner knowing

What do you love apart from him? You should be able to know that.

Imagine just feeling relaxed because someone truly loves and is dedicated to you.

the best thing about being tuned with your fourth brain is that it can make you more attractive to a man.

He will find it hard to resist you. He will get attracted to you without even knowing since you’ll look sexy, grounded, confident and real.

Of course, he can discover that you are interested to talk to but there will be something about you that melts his soul.

Healing Your Heart

The heart chakra is the area that connects your energy to your center and gives you the ability to love and get love.  If you have been emotionally wounded throughout your life, you have energy that has impacted you and you have learned how to manage your heart energy.

Even if you are an adult and you have learned to have love, you need to energize your heart chakra to expand your ability to give and receive love.  This is a healing gift for all of us.  Here are some ways to do this.

Push-Ups

If you think I am not being serious, I am.  Even though I don’t like push-ups either, doing three or four of them can help you to focus on the center movement of your heart and can help you to get back to the connection with your planet.  Straighten your body and with your weight on your arms, take a deep breath, exhale and then when you breath back in, bend your elbows and lower yourself as far as you can.  You don’t have to go far, but while you do it, focus on your heart area and imagine a green light coming into your chakra from the center of the earth.

Hug

Give yourself love and appreciation.  This can add to your heart chakra.  Tell yourself that you love you and that you appreciate yourself.  Give yourself a big hug and know that you are really appreciated.

Up to the Heavens

Everyday, stretch your arms up to the sky like you are lifting your whole body to heaven. Take a deep breath and say, “I open my heart up to the Divine Power.”  Di this even when you feel too much ego or if you don’t feel like you can surrender your heart.  This is important so that you can let love come through.

Breath in Your Heart

Use conscious breathing so that you can notice how deep your awareness is.  This can help you to know what your heart is feeling.  Take a deep breath and close your eyes and mediate.  Imagine energy going downward each time you take a breath in and bring it in from the heart space.  Imagine the energy coming form heaven into your heart.  Imagine the color green and white or golden. With each breath, let your heart take in the energy.  Exhale through the entire being.

Heart Chant

Do a chant that helps you to not feel overwhelmed in your life.  Say “I open my Heart to surrender to love.”  Sing it over and over again until you feel the energy going back into your heart.

Respect yourself before you break yourself

How many have you felt like changing your plans to fit your partner’s in any of your relationships? Or rather how many times have you tried to compromise on behalf of somebody else? Although at times we convince ourselves that it’s no big deal, females are always expected to be self-sacrificing. Nevertheless, one thing that should always keep in mind is, you should love the other person until you forget to take care of yourself.

We are not saying that you don’t have to be compassionate or kind-hearted, all we are saying is, it’s important to know when you no longer feel yourself in a relationship because even if you feel bad, you are always putting somebody else before you.

Therefore, if you are currently in a relationship or looking forward to dating, below are things you need to know about yourself and your needs before moving on:

  1. FREELY SHOW YOUR EMOTIONS AND OPINIONS

Women, you have a right to how you feel. If you don’t feel good about something your partner did, let them know. Communication is key in a relationship. However, it’s very important to even be respectful while speaking to them about that issue.

Secondly, if you always choose to keep things to yourself when upset, try speaking to your partner when you have calmed down. This helps prevent more arguments. Know that you are not a lesser being when you cry over something. If they always say crying, make you look vulnerable then get that out of your head right now at times a good cry is all you need.

TREAT YOURSELF

Spending some time away from your partner is very important. Do not forget who you were before getting into that relationship. Do things that make you happy, your partner doesn’t have to be with you every time.

There’s something amazing about solitude and having the time to grow alone. Know that individual growth can strengthen your relationship.

YOU DO NOT OWE YOUR PARTNER ANYTHING

Do not feel like you have to do something that you don’t want to. One of the biggest reasons why people disagree in relationships is that one individual is always expected to do everything. To add to this, doing things that you don’t believe in can destroy your mental health.

This can also decrease your self-esteem as well as make you resent your partner. Good relationships involve good understanding and everyone should be free to decide what they are and what they are not willing to do. All these take us back to communication. It is key.

KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE TO CALL IT QUIT

This has several meanings. It can mean you need to end the conversation because it’s overwhelming, it means you need to leave and at least be with your friends or it means you need to end the relationship.

This is very important, it shows self-respect because knowing what you need to leave teaches you self-worth and putting yourself first before the relationship gets unhealthy. Nevertheless, you can only have the courage to leave once you’ve taken time to grow on your own.

It’s true leaving is always easy than done, so, to solve this problem, seek advice from a trusted friend or family member.

Overall, all these four points just communicate the same thing. Self-love. Learn to love yourself first before extending the love to another person.

8 Steps to emotional freedom

We all experience emotional changes frequently. At times nevertheless, emotions can decide to be part of us unknowingly and we don’t dare to ask it to leave. Even though we tolerate its presence at first, the weight of sadness becomes overwhelming over time. The lights used to shine get deemed.

Have you been into such a situation? Overwhelmed by emotions everywhere you go? I am not talking about people who go through depression or any other emotional disorders, I’m talking about emotional distress that we all encounter at some point in life.

The good news is there are options. The bad news is that it needs work for you to free yourself emotionally. The following steps are a way of life and not short term solutions. If you try them out, you’ll see change;

What lesson can I take from this?

When we experience emotions, we experience them for a reason. Frequently is to learn something and take lessons from there but for others who get caught up in the emotion itself, we miss that opportunity to learn. Ask yourself “what do I need to learn from this?” it will help you gain perspective and move on.

Face it

If you decide to run away from your emotional discomfort, you’ll lose on the valuable insights that you can gain. Its true nobody loves discomfort, but if we embrace it and learn from it rather than running away from it we’ll gain more perspective and eventually find peace.

Do not wallow and practice allowing

Be at ease. Welcome emotions as they come and go but do not get caught up in them. Our normal reaction is to evaluate the emotion, get familiar with it and react to it or wallow in the pain. Frustrations won’t help you. Just observe the emotion, do not engage it. In the end, you are going to learn a lot about yourself.

Meditation

Meditation has a lot of benefits. It has been scientifically proven that it boosts the immune system, improves health alleviate anxiety and calm the nervous system. If you discover that your emotions are trying to get the better part of you, try meditation.

Yoga

There are different types of yoga that you can try. You can try a few and see which one you enjoy before deciding on one. There are many benefits of yoga.

Take deep breaths

This is something that can also be used although we still practice it during yoga and meditation times. It is an instant stress reliever and brings relief. Try ujjayi breath, it reduces tension, reduces pain and strengthens the nervous system. You can practice it on or off the mat and learning it is so easy.

Spend time in nature

Spending time daily in nature is important. There are many activities you can undertake just to spent time outside, be it jogging, cycling and walking. This is because nature has a lot of restorative properties.

Online Dating Signals that Show You’re Being Catfished

When you watch shows about being catfished, it is easy to talk about how fake the person is.  Sometimes it is easy to tell that they are being fake, at least when you are on the outside looking in.

Are you dating online?  Have you ever felt like a complete idiot because you were being catfished?

Here are some ways to tell if you are being catfished or not:

  1. He Doesn’t Work but Went to Harvard College.  Some people that are on dating sites talk about going to Harvard college.  It is extremely fishy when they have a degree from such a known college but then they tell you they don’t work or they are unemployed.
  2. His Pictures Are Too Hard to See. It is hard to tell who you are talking to by just looking at pictures.  If you are given pictures and they are hard to see or they are all group pictures, there is a good chance you are being catfished.
  3. He Won’t Call You. Given the chance to talk to someone on the phone helps you to know them way better than if you just talk online.  If someone you are talking to on a dating site refuses to let you talk to them, you might be being catfished.  It could be someone even from the opposite gender that they say they are.
  4. He Always Says Video Chat is Broken. In this day and age, there are many ways to video chat someone.  If who your talking to says that they can’t video chat you because it is broken, chances are you are being catfished.
  5. He Doesn’t Have Snapchat. Almost everyone has Snapchat.  If he doesn’t then he might not be real.  Ask him to download it if he doesn’t have it.
  6. If They Ask for Money. Don’t ever give someone money that you don’t know.  If they have just met you or are online dating sites, they are probably trying to scam you out of your money.
  7. Their Job Makes Them Travel and They Can Never Meet You. Being out of town is a reason that someone might not be able to meet you once in a while.  If you are talking to someone and they say that they have a job that makes them ALWAYS be out of town, they are probably catfishing you and don’t want you to see them.
  8. They Look Famous or Too Perfect. When people use fake photos, they usually use photos that look too good.  If you find someone that looks like they have fake photos, they probably do.  If someone takes a picture with a smartphone, they will not always be perfect.
  9. They Seem Fairy Tale Like. If someone seems too perfect, they probably are.  Listen to your inner being if you feel like they are being fake.  If they have nothing wrong with them, they probably aren’t real.
  10. You Have A Gut Feeling. If your gut is telling you something isn’t right, it probably isn’t.  Get out of the situation and shut it down real fast.

Creating peaceful relationships

The most important experiences of our lives are formed by our relationships.  Relationships help your bodies and souls as we learn our life lessons. We see ourselves in the mirrored reflection of other people. Relationships teach us how to love and forgive.  These are important life lessons.  There are some simple ways to make your relationships pass a little more peacefully.

Love yourself

Don’t expect your relationships to make you feel fulfilled. Figure out what you are missing and fix that first. If you have unfinished business and pain from your childhood, do what you can to fix that  first  so you can work on closing the emptiness. You can do this by taking some time for yourself. Spend time alone and give yourself what you want from others.

Don’t blame or judge

Do you like to be criticized? How about judged?  The answer is probably “no.  Before you start with the complaining and accusations, ask yourself why you are reacting that way? It is your feelings? Why are you striking out at someone else.  Think about the lesson you could be learning from your feelings. Try and understand why you are feeling the way you are.  Your feelings are a way for you to grow.

Honesty is the best policy

If you want a true and lasting relationship, you have to be honest with your partner. Don’t be afraid to tell them what you feel and think. Don’t try to manipulate them with your words.  Don’t hold back because you are afraid. You can be honest and respectful. Not only will this help you feel satisfied, it will help your partner will be honest with you.

Live in the moment

Life changes constantly. There is no such thing as permanence. Life and all of it’s forms are in a constant cycle. If we are truly to enjoy our lives, we need to allow ourselves to enjoy the moment to moment nature. There is no permanence so let your baggage go and enjoy your life.

Do you prejudge people?

It’s not uncommon to make assumptions about people or places that you don’t know. It’s part of being human. So it is easy to assume the worst about a total stranger.  Our decision making is is part of a three pronged process.

Here’s how we make our decisions:

How we were raised. The way we were brought up greatly influences how determine our impressions and make our decisions. This ingrained belief system helps us decided what to think and what to believe.

Our experiences.  Many of us know that our experiences teach us valuable lessons. Any child who has burned themselves knows not to touch the stove or iron ever again.  You can  read that snow is cold, but until you have stood in a blizzard, you can’t really know.

Choices Possibly the most important component in our decision making is our free will. It is our free will that allows us to choose. No matter how we were raised or what lessons we have learned, it is our choices that gives our life shape.

And, when we see someone behaving in an unfamiliar way, we judge them without taking into consideration their experiences or beliefs or the way they were raised.

 Case study of snap judging

A man and a woman, Dustin And Jessica were so attracted to each other. they seemed destined to be together. Each felt that the other had been placed in their lives by the universe.  After a while, Dustin decided to help things along and they eventually moved in together. Soon Dustin asked Jessica to marry him. Shortly after this, the trouble started.

The trouble began when Dustin’s mother told him that she didn’t approve because Jessica was over a decade older than him. He began to spend less and less time with him.   Soon the couple began to argue.  Eventually Jessica began to doubt Dustin’s love for her.   As this happened, Dustin began to criticize his lady love.

A few months later they split up. As a result, they missed each other terrible and were quite miserable. Neither could explain what had happened to their happy lives  This all came about from the snap judgements of their families and friends.

This whole story would have had a happy ending if Dustin’s support system hadn’t been so quick to judge his relationship because of their age difference. If they had considered that they were pushing their own values on this couple, they wouldn’t have interfered with this couple’s potential for happiness.

Indications that your relationship can be saved if you contemplated its already broken

We always think perfect relationships exist, which is not the case. This is because people are very complicated, especially when trying to connect with each other.

If you feel like your relationship is having ups and downs, it doesn’t mean its broken. Your relationship can still be saved through communication, willingness to grow together and respect for each other. It’s true that you can’t try to save all relationships, but there are those you can try at least.

Below are signs that your relationship is worth saving:

  1. YOU ARE BOTH SENSITIVE TO EACH OTHER’S NEEDS

The fact that you might not be happy in a relationship because your partner is not, is the greatest news ever. This means that if you didn’t care about the relationship and your partner then you would just be undertaking your daily activities normally without feeling anything.  This, therefore, suggests that there is a chance that your relationship can be saved until that time where nobody will no longer care.

The relationship is not over until that time that the connection between you and your partner will loosen. Unless one of you cut that connection, your relationship can still be saved.

  1. THERE’S MORE TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP, NOT SEX ONLY.

One of the good things about sex is that it can be learned. If you and your partner have both emotional and intellectual connection but the physical connection is lacking, then, of course, your relationship can be saved.

As long as you are interested in fulfilling your partner’s needs you can do it. And your partner’s satisfaction will make you happy.

You can initiate eroticism in your everyday routine. You can sex chat and flirt the whole day. You can engage in activities like cooking together and give each other a massage after that. If your sexual life is hindered by other things such as stress at work, its better you inform your partner so that they know.  They can as well suggest ways you can relieve the burden.

  1. BOTH OF YOU ARE WILLING TO CHANGE AND PROGRESS ON

There is nothing good about a relationship that needs you to bend over backward to accommodate your partner. A relationship that is built on codependency cannot be saved.

There will only be changed in one way. This only happens with time and when you are close with an individual. You should be able to get used to every situation that life brings.

Your relationship can be saved if both of you can talk about what’s going on and how it’s affecting your relationship.  Ask yourself what you can do to repair the rifts that the changes have impacted.

  1. YOU ARE BOTH FREE TO COMMUNICATE YOUR WANTS AND NEEDS TO EACH OTHER

Your relationship can be saved if you are willing to share your unhappiness with your partner or comprehend your partner’s unhappiness.

Communicating healthily with your partner allows you to be there for each other without jealousy or ego getting involved. Be sensitive to what they are going through and don’t be rude to them.

Your relationship has an optimistic look if both of you are willing to pay attention to each other and hear what the other is saying respectfully and with an open mind. Honest communication is the foundation of every relationship. That’s the reality.

  1. YOU FEEL SAFE AND SECURE WITH YOUR PARTNER

I know you wouldn’t like to be with someone who makes you feel unappreciated, unloved and someone who makes you question your self-worth. There are insecurities in every relationship especially due to past experiences, but this doesn’t mean that your relationship has no direction. The relationship can still be saved as long as you and your partner are not actively using those insecurities against each other.

In an unhealthy relationship, there is a high chance of a partner taking advantage of your insecure situation to make you feel bad since they know you’re vulnerable.

In a healthy relationship, there are insecurities but if you have a very understanding partner then they won’t trigger them. Your relationship will survive as long as you are honest and respect each other.

Steps on How to Resolve Conflicts within Your Family

We usually disagree mostly with individuals who are very close to us. Such conflicts always frustrate us and bring us distress.

Regardless of what kind of conflict it might be, conflicts that occur at home are the most challenging to resolve due to the fact holding to your emotions is quite easy.

How can we, therefore, build a good relationship at home with individuals who are so close to our hearts?

I have been using the perspective triangle strategy to resolve my own conflicts. This strategy allows you to be yourself and gain clarity of what’s happening in your life which is a very important part when it comes to conflict resolution.

Below are the steps of Perspective Triangle Strategy:

Step 1: Your Own Perspective.

This step expects you to have self-awareness of a higher degree by asking yourself what’s disturbing you and all that you need to achieve.

Indulge deeply into yourself and gain clarity on what kind of conflict you’re dealing with.

Step 2: The other’s Perspective.

This step is very crucial. You need to be very empathetic to have a broad understanding of what’s happening.

Do not judge, and try putting yourself in the shoes of the other individual to feel what they’re feeling.

Ask yourself questions like, what’s going on in the life of the other person. Why did the other person do what they did?

Then ask yourself how the other individual will interpret your words and actions. What you need to do satisfy your own needs as well as the other person’s.

By doing all the above, you’ll a better understanding of what’s going on in the other person’s life and will be able to resolve very well the issue at hand.

Step 3: The Third Party’s Perspective.

Frequently, a third party can give us insight into the conflict we are trying to resolve.

This step requires you to be the third party and observe keenly the problem you’re trying to resolve.

Just imagine all kind of things the third party can tell you or imagine.

Having these three steps help you have a better understanding of how to deal with problems. It gives you room to shift positions from a victim position to a leadership position. It strengthens and empowers you.

Do not forget this…

You are the person to bring change. It doesn’t begin with the other individual. There is a high chance of conflict being a better opportunity for you to resolve issues that are very important.

We cannot avoid conflict since its part of our life but we can resolve it, change it and experience of self-growth.

Visiting a dog psychic

Many have heard of pet psychics or animal communicators.  People consult these specialists when they have a pet problem they can’t solve on their own.   One such case involved an older male dog and a younger female who, after years of living together peacefully, suddenly began to fight. The owner sought a help from a pet psychic.

The younger dog went to an obedience training camp for several weeks.  This time away was successful and her owners had high hopes.  Everything seemed fine until they brought her home.

Upon seeing the older dog, the younger became aggressive. The owners intervened by taking both dogs for a walk.  This worked temporarily.  Every transition from leash to jacket or room to room made this dog react violently.

Eventually both dogs were taken to a trainer. The pair of dogs did well and even played together.  The trainer suggested that both dogs be trained together with both dogs facing consequences  for bad behavior. Nothing seemed to work and it seemed that the younger dog was fighting constantly with the older one.

Alternative treatments such as collars and supplements didn’t work.   This is when a animal communicator was sought.

Visiting a dog psychicAnimal communicators meditate and then talk to your pet by using intuition.  While they are more commonly known as pet psychics, they prefer the term animal communicator.  They each have their own methods of communication.

Some may not even need to meet with you in person. To get one you really trust, get a recommendation from a friend or a referral from a trusted psychic.

A good communicator will find a way to keep the human from interfering, albeit inadvertently with the reading.  A pet communicator may start with a complete body scan of the pet to see if there are any issues related to pain.

Once this is completed, they will communicate with the pet.  In this case, the younger dog had become aggressive after being overwhelmed by the energies of the other dogs at the obedience facility and was responding  to the stress of the dogs. This stress and anxiety led to the bad behavior.

The communicator suggested slight changes to the dog’s diet to address the aggression issues. This, combined with dog massage and was a huge help to both the owner and the dog.  The owner  provided some dual training sessions with both dogs, thus creating an environment of treats and training with both dogs.

Eventually both dogs were taken to the communicator who found that the older dog saw himself as a means of support for the entire family.   At that point the younger dog wanted to communicate that she felt that she was being punished by being taken to the training school.  She was jealous that the older dog got to enjoy time at home, while she had to work at the school.  The communicator mediated by passing on that this training was to help her be a better dog.

This mediation also had the benefit of pointing out issues that the owner was having in her own life.  Once the owner had taken the steps towards healing communication and tension was reduced things completely turned around for the better.

Whatever turned the page, be it the communicator itself or the listening and attention to the dog things improved.  The change in energy helped everyone.

Whether or not you believe in the abilities of a pet psychic or communicator, it is a good place to go if you have tried everything else. Your pet can feel your tension and anxiety and they don’t know how to tell you.  A animal communicator can try to help.