Category: Dating

Long distance relationships can be one of the hardest ways of loving someone because living far away can take away from your relationship. The truth is thought, a long-distance relationship can work and people even far away from each other can make things work out well.

When you have dated someone for a long time, you might see that time separates you and that it makes things harder but you know that you can live a happy and long life together as long as you work hard towards it.

Even though you will miss the person that you are in a relationship with, you can have peace in knowing that your life with them can work out and that you can love each other regardless of distance.

It would come to a point where you can face challenges and frustration when long distance dating is happen and you might not be able to see each other nearly as much as you want to but the bond can still be strong.

If you want to be with someone that is far away from you, you have to understand that you might face a point where you have different life paths and where you have different areas that you live in. This can cause you to worry and not to be sure of the future.

Future

Once you realize that you can be a victim or you can work things out, you can learn that distance does not always affect your relationship, but it can make you stronger. There are some things you can learn to help you in your long-distance relationship that can make you stronger such as:

Communicating

When you are in a long-distance relationship, communication is the key. You have to learn to laugh and have meaningful communication with your partner. Even when you are fighting, you should call them and talk to them.

Do little things such as send out postcards and pictures of yourself to your partner so that they can have things from you while they are far away from you.

Know that you will not always hear from each other on a daily basis due to schedules and time but you have to do what you can to make sure that you are available to each other and that you are able to understand the struggles and the problems with long distance dating.

By being open in communication, the lines of distance will not keep you upset, and you will be able to be a team and get closer to each other.

Doubting

When you doubt your partner because you are not close to each other, you have to challenge these doubts. Why are you having them? You have to know that you can trust your partner and if you cannot then doubt will creep in.

When you have love and laughs together, it can make things easy but when things get hard and doubt starts to set in, you have to learn to see things from a different point of view.

Be Clear

Take time to be clear on what you want. You cannot make this person out to be better than you and a superhero and you have to know that just like you, they are human.

Learn about each other and learn to not be afraid to show your flaws. There will be challenges in all relationships and when you learn to put your mind together you will see that you can create a future together, even if it only starts as a vision. Learn to respect each other with your whole heart.

Time

Each time you can spend time together, make sure that it is quality time and that you treat each other good and you laugh, a lot. Make sure that you act like a friend and a lover and not an enemy when you spend time together rather over the phone or in person.

Visit them as much as you can and save money so that you can visit more. Spend time together as a couple when you are with them and make sure that you do not let the distance get in your way. Learn that distance is not equal to emotions and that you have to learn to accept the hard times as well as the good times.

Conclusion

There are ways that you can be happy with the distance and you have to learn to understand what the challenges are and how you can fight against them. If you love this person, you have to learn to accept that there is distance between you and let it bring you together instead of apart.

There are some struggles with being someone is straightforward and here are some things that can happen when you are this type of person.

Rules

There are many rules that you feel that you have to follow.  Stop following so many rules and playing hard to get, be more straightforward.

Helpful

Dating rules are not always helpful and can waste your time.

Pick-Up Lines

You don’t care if there is a weird pickup line on a dating site, it just helps you get rid of the creepy people.

Texting

Stop taking so much time to communicate back and forth.  If texting is a problem for you, pick up the phone and call him.

Mad

When you are mad at someone that you are dating, don’t give hints, let them know what is going on and tell them why.

Opinion

Having openness is good for you and it allows you to handle your issues.  But when you tell people that you are so open, it makes them think you might be a little crazy.

Liking You

You are okay with people not liking you and you will get over it if someone cancels on you.  You will not want to waste their time if they don’t like you.

Romantic

You don’t always want to be romantic and sometimes you want to just have a drink.  You don’t have a problem telling someone that.

Cool

Being backwards does not let people see that you are cool, you don’t care though, just give yourself a drink.

Social Media

You have more fun on social media than you do actually dating or dating sites.

AIM

Even back in the day of AOL, you were kind of boring when you chatted.  You felt that people should just get to the point.

Clear

You make it clear when you want someone to do something with you and the rest of the time you are flexible.  You always have something going on anyways and you are always busy.  You don’t want them to think that there is anything wrong with you wanting your guy or girl around for your special moments, though.

Bossy

You are not bossy; you just know what you want, and you are willing to ask for it. This isn’t ridiculous or selfish, just who you are.

Dating Rules

You think some dating rules are ridiculous and they turn you off.

Advice

You give your friends advice, but you want to give advice of “why are you wasting your time,” or “they aren’t good enough for you.”  You have a long list of your own rules, but you don’t think that people should go out with someone that is sending bad vibes.

Sorry

You respond to texts days later and you say, ‘sorry I meant to respond to this.”

Romantic Gifts

You like gifts like flowers and chocolate, but nothing is better than a note or someone telling you how much they like you.  You wish that people were more honest, and you want to be attracted to people that are real and not fake.

Navigating the dating world in your 50s can be tough. You have children, maybe even grown children. You have a job, perhaps a demanding one. Most of all, you are out of practice so your confidence level may be low. Does it still work the same way?

Dating can be especially tough if you were in a long-term marriage that ended abruptly in death or divorce. You grew used to your spouse and the idea of having to get to know someone else and create a new history with a new person is daunting and, perhaps, a little scary.

That’s okay. Those are normal feelings. However, your fears and inhibitions shouldn’t stop you from getting out into the dating world.

One element to dating that has dramatically changed over the past decade is online dating. There are many online sites that offer ways to get to know people and have helped many find the love they truly desire.

Online dating isn’t for the faint of heart.

Here are some things to be aware of when you decide to take your love online:

• There are various sites that fulfill different needs. Some sites are especially for those seeking serious relationships while others just introduce people for lunch or drinks. There are sites for different age categories as well and there are several that cater to the over 50 crowd. Research the different sites before you sign up.
• Stick to reputable sites. With so many choices, there are some hoax sites that wind up at the top of the search page. Look at recommendations and ratings under each site listing to ensure you are dealing with a reputable site. Also, look at their question-and-answer section to see how you can contact someone if you have a concern or problem.

There are both free and paid dating websites and one isn’t more reputable than the other. You can try a couple of different sites to increase your chances at finding love.

• Realize that getting yourself online will take some time. You will need to fill out an application and upload a decent picture. That can present a couple of obstacles.

First, getting a decent picture to upload can be an issue if you don’t have a recent professional one. It would be best to go ahead and get a photographer or a good friend to take a couple rather than upload an old one or one where you aren’t at your best. It is best to not use a phone selfie because those can look odd.

Your first obstacle may be simply asking someone to help you with a picture. Some people are embarrassed they are seeking love online and don’t want anyone to know. A good friend to confide in for help is a great solution that comes with no judgement.

The same goes for filling out the application. Some people aren’t as computer literate as others, so ask for help if you need it. If you are insistent on close friends or family not knowing your plans, go to the public library. You can get a media specialists to help you with the computer application without any questions or fuss.

• Be honest with yourself and on your application. Many put down what they think others will like. Be your real self. That will go a long way to attracting the right person for you.

This is a good time to rediscover yourself, your interests and your passions. Be sure to get to know yourself in this process. It wouldn’t hurt to pick up a new hobby or hairstyle to create conversation and give you more confidence.

• Understand some of the nuances of being over 50 may pop up with you or your date. Either of you may have unique family situations and obligations that could be somewhat challenging. The best thing to do is stand up for yourself and tell your family you need some time to yourself.

Another issue could be emotional baggage you’re carrying around from the last relationship. Be aware of that and understand a new relationship doesn’t necessarily have to fit the pattern of your last relationship.

Finally, another issue could be your own lack of self-confidence or a negative self-image. You don’t look like you did at 20, 30 or even 40. What you have is wisdom and life experience that is worthy of sharing.

• Put the time into developing a new relationship. You spend a good bit of time filling out the application and looking online, so there is no reason to waste that effort by not following through with conversations and possibly meeting. Don’t be afraid to take the next step.

The next step after introductions is to chat in a private chat room on the dating website. You can get more personal with a possible date this way and decide if you want to pursue it.

Remember to keep safety rules in mind when arranging to meet someone. Meet in a public place like a restaurant. Don’t give them your home address or even cell phone number but communicate through the dating app. Get to know them a while before providing them with personal information.

Also remember there can be scammers seeking out potential victims on online sites. Unfortunately, older daters are targeted because of their lack of online savviness and their vulnerability after ending a long-term relationship. While reputable sites are great at verifying their users, don’t assume all are verified. Be wary of people who want to move too fast and shut it down if they hint they need money.

• Move beyond the first page of the dating site. Expand your reach. Talk to people in public chat rooms. Get to know others in a friendly way.

Online dating can be beneficial if you take it slow and put in the time to get to know people. Don’t look at it with a targeted approach of finding someone to spend your life with but view it as a growth process for you. It’s a chance to get to know a lot of different people, to find out about them, develop friendships, get to expand your horizons and find out more about yourself.

When you take that approach, online dating becomes fun and comfortable without the pressure. That gives you the best chance at finding true love.