Author: FamilyAndRelationships Author

The heart chakra is the area that connects your energy to your center and gives you the ability to love and get love.  If you have been emotionally wounded throughout your life, you have energy that has impacted you and you have learned how to manage your heart energy.

Even if you are an adult and you have learned to have love, you need to energize your heart chakra to expand your ability to give and receive love.  This is a healing gift for all of us.  Here are some ways to do this.

Push-Ups

If you think I am not being serious, I am.  Even though I don’t like push-ups either, doing three or four of them can help you to focus on the center movement of your heart and can help you to get back to the connection with your planet.  Straighten your body and with your weight on your arms, take a deep breath, exhale and then when you breath back in, bend your elbows and lower yourself as far as you can.  You don’t have to go far, but while you do it, focus on your heart area and imagine a green light coming into your chakra from the center of the earth.

Hug

Give yourself love and appreciation.  This can add to your heart chakra.  Tell yourself that you love you and that you appreciate yourself.  Give yourself a big hug and know that you are really appreciated.

Up to the Heavens

Everyday, stretch your arms up to the sky like you are lifting your whole body to heaven. Take a deep breath and say, “I open my heart up to the Divine Power.”  Di this even when you feel too much ego or if you don’t feel like you can surrender your heart.  This is important so that you can let love come through.

Breath in Your Heart

Use conscious breathing so that you can notice how deep your awareness is.  This can help you to know what your heart is feeling.  Take a deep breath and close your eyes and mediate.  Imagine energy going downward each time you take a breath in and bring it in from the heart space.  Imagine the energy coming form heaven into your heart.  Imagine the color green and white or golden. With each breath, let your heart take in the energy.  Exhale through the entire being.

Heart Chant

Do a chant that helps you to not feel overwhelmed in your life.  Say “I open my Heart to surrender to love.”  Sing it over and over again until you feel the energy going back into your heart.

When you watch shows about being catfished, it is easy to talk about how fake the person is.  Sometimes it is easy to tell that they are being fake, at least when you are on the outside looking in.

Are you dating online?  Have you ever felt like a complete idiot because you were being catfished?

Here are some ways to tell if you are being catfished or not:

1. He Doesn’t Work but Went to Harvard College.  Some people that are on dating sites talk about going to Harvard college.  It is extremely fishy when they have a degree from such a known college but then they tell you they don’t work or they are unemployed.
2. His Pictures Are Too Hard to See. It is hard to tell who you are talking to by just looking at pictures.  If you are given pictures and they are hard to see or they are all group pictures, there is a good chance you are being catfished.
3. He Won’t Call You. Given the chance to talk to someone on the phone helps you to know them way better than if you just talk online.  If someone you are talking to on a dating site refuses to let you talk to them, you might be being catfished.  It could be someone even from the opposite gender that they say they are.
4. He Always Says Video Chat is Broken. In this day and age, there are many ways to video chat someone.  If who your talking to says that they can’t video chat you because it is broken, chances are you are being catfished.
5. He Doesn’t Have Snapchat. Almost everyone has Snapchat.  If he doesn’t then he might not be real.  Ask him to download it if he doesn’t have it.
6. If They Ask for Money. Don’t ever give someone money that you don’t know.  If they have just met you or are online dating sites, they are probably trying to scam you out of your money.
7. Their Job Makes Them Travel and They Can Never Meet You. Being out of town is a reason that someone might not be able to meet you once in a while.  If you are talking to someone and they say that they have a job that makes them ALWAYS be out of town, they are probably catfishing you and don’t want you to see them.
8. They Look Famous or Too Perfect. When people use fake photos, they usually use photos that look too good.  If you find someone that looks like they have fake photos, they probably do.  If someone takes a picture with a smartphone, they will not always be perfect.
9. They Seem Fairy Tale Like. If someone seems too perfect, they probably are.  Listen to your inner being if you feel like they are being fake.  If they have nothing wrong with them, they probably aren’t real.
10. You Have A Gut Feeling. If your gut is telling you something isn’t right, it probably isn’t.  Get out of the situation and shut it down real fast.

The most important experiences of our lives are formed by our relationships.  Relationships help your bodies and souls as we learn our life lessons. We see ourselves in the mirrored reflection of other people. Relationships teach us how to love and forgive.  These are important life lessons.  There are some simple ways to make your relationships pass a little more peacefully.

Love yourself

Don’t expect your relationships to make you feel fulfilled. Figure out what you are missing and fix that first. If you have unfinished business and pain from your childhood, do what you can to fix that  first  so you can work on closing the emptiness. You can do this by taking some time for yourself. Spend time alone and give yourself what you want from others.

Don’t blame or judge

Do you like to be criticized? How about judged?  The answer is probably “no.  Before you start with the complaining and accusations, ask yourself why you are reacting that way? It is your feelings? Why are you striking out at someone else.  Think about the lesson you could be learning from your feelings. Try and understand why you are feeling the way you are.  Your feelings are a way for you to grow.

Honesty is the best policy

If you want a true and lasting relationship, you have to be honest with your partner. Don’t be afraid to tell them what you feel and think. Don’t try to manipulate them with your words.  Don’t hold back because you are afraid. You can be honest and respectful. Not only will this help you feel satisfied, it will help your partner will be honest with you.

Live in the moment

Life changes constantly. There is no such thing as permanence. Life and all of it’s forms are in a constant cycle. If we are truly to enjoy our lives, we need to allow ourselves to enjoy the moment to moment nature. There is no permanence so let your baggage go and enjoy your life.

It’s not uncommon to make assumptions about people or places that you don’t know. It’s part of being human. So it is easy to assume the worst about a total stranger.  Our decision making is is part of a three pronged process.

Here’s how we make our decisions:

How we were raised. The way we were brought up greatly influences how determine our impressions and make our decisions. This ingrained belief system helps us decided what to think and what to believe.

Our experiences.  Many of us know that our experiences teach us valuable lessons. Any child who has burned themselves knows not to touch the stove or iron ever again.  You can  read that snow is cold, but until you have stood in a blizzard, you can’t really know.

Choices Possibly the most important component in our decision making is our free will. It is our free will that allows us to choose. No matter how we were raised or what lessons we have learned, it is our choices that gives our life shape.

And, when we see someone behaving in an unfamiliar way, we judge them without taking into consideration their experiences or beliefs or the way they were raised.

 Case study of snap judging

A man and a woman, Dustin And Jessica were so attracted to each other. they seemed destined to be together. Each felt that the other had been placed in their lives by the universe.  After a while, Dustin decided to help things along and they eventually moved in together. Soon Dustin asked Jessica to marry him. Shortly after this, the trouble started.

The trouble began when Dustin’s mother told him that she didn’t approve because Jessica was over a decade older than him. He began to spend less and less time with him.   Soon the couple began to argue.  Eventually Jessica began to doubt Dustin’s love for her.   As this happened, Dustin began to criticize his lady love.

A few months later they split up. As a result, they missed each other terrible and were quite miserable. Neither could explain what had happened to their happy lives  This all came about from the snap judgements of their families and friends.

This whole story would have had a happy ending if Dustin’s support system hadn’t been so quick to judge his relationship because of their age difference. If they had considered that they were pushing their own values on this couple, they wouldn’t have interfered with this couple’s potential for happiness.

We always think perfect relationships exist, which is not the case. This is because people are very complicated, especially when trying to connect with each other.

If you feel like your relationship is having ups and downs, it doesn’t mean its broken. Your relationship can still be saved through communication, willingness to grow together and respect for each other. It’s true that you can’t try to save all relationships, but there are those you can try at least.

Below are signs that your relationship is worth saving:

1. YOU ARE BOTH SENSITIVE TO EACH OTHER’S NEEDS

The fact that you might not be happy in a relationship because your partner is not, is the greatest news ever. This means that if you didn’t care about the relationship and your partner then you would just be undertaking your daily activities normally without feeling anything.  This, therefore, suggests that there is a chance that your relationship can be saved until that time where nobody will no longer care.

The relationship is not over until that time that the connection between you and your partner will loosen. Unless one of you cut that connection, your relationship can still be saved.

2. THERE’S MORE TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP, NOT SEX ONLY.

One of the good things about sex is that it can be learned. If you and your partner have both emotional and intellectual connection but the physical connection is lacking, then, of course, your relationship can be saved.

As long as you are interested in fulfilling your partner’s needs you can do it. And your partner’s satisfaction will make you happy.

You can initiate eroticism in your everyday routine. You can sex chat and flirt the whole day. You can engage in activities like cooking together and give each other a massage after that. If your sexual life is hindered by other things such as stress at work, its better you inform your partner so that they know.  They can as well suggest ways you can relieve the burden.

3. BOTH OF YOU ARE WILLING TO CHANGE AND PROGRESS ON

There is nothing good about a relationship that needs you to bend over backward to accommodate your partner. A relationship that is built on codependency cannot be saved.

There will only be changed in one way. This only happens with time and when you are close with an individual. You should be able to get used to every situation that life brings.

Your relationship can be saved if both of you can talk about what’s going on and how it’s affecting your relationship.  Ask yourself what you can do to repair the rifts that the changes have impacted.

4. YOU ARE BOTH FREE TO COMMUNICATE YOUR WANTS AND NEEDS TO EACH OTHER

Your relationship can be saved if you are willing to share your unhappiness with your partner or comprehend your partner’s unhappiness.

Communicating healthily with your partner allows you to be there for each other without jealousy or ego getting involved. Be sensitive to what they are going through and don’t be rude to them.

Your relationship has an optimistic look if both of you are willing to pay attention to each other and hear what the other is saying respectfully and with an open mind. Honest communication is the foundation of every relationship. That’s the reality.

5. YOU FEEL SAFE AND SECURE WITH YOUR PARTNER

I know you wouldn’t like to be with someone who makes you feel unappreciated, unloved and someone who makes you question your self-worth. There are insecurities in every relationship especially due to past experiences, but this doesn’t mean that your relationship has no direction. The relationship can still be saved as long as you and your partner are not actively using those insecurities against each other.

In an unhealthy relationship, there is a high chance of a partner taking advantage of your insecure situation to make you feel bad since they know you’re vulnerable.

In a healthy relationship, there are insecurities but if you have a very understanding partner then they won’t trigger them. Your relationship will survive as long as you are honest and respect each other.